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5 Uniquely Poetic Ways to Scatter a Loved One’s Ashes

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”

― Shannon L. Alder

 

Scattering the ashes of your loved one is deeply symbolic act. Not only are you letting go of your loved one and of your grief, but you are in some sense returning them to the earth and releasing their souls.

 

However, you want to make sure that the way you scatter the ashes is as beautiful and unique as the person was. Here are the top 5 most poetic was to scatter your loved one’s ashes.

 

Take Them to a Deeply Meaningful Place

“That’s when I realized that certain moments go on forever. Even after they’re over they still go on, even after you’re dead and buried, those moments are lasting still, backward and forward, on into infinity. They are everything and everywhere all at once.”

― Lauren Oliver, Before I Fall

 

Over the course of our lives, we are all drawn to particular places. Our souls are drawn to these places because they speak to us of all of the things we valued over the course of our life. Think of a place that was meaningful to your loved one. Maybe it’s the top of a mountain somewhere, or a favorite spot on a nearby river. Maybe it is where they met their spouse for the first time. Misting systems can be set up to gently blow your loved one’s ashes out over the landscape, which will simplify the logistics and add an elegance to the ceremony.

 

Become a Tree

“What is it that dies? A log of wood dies to become a few planks. The planks die to become a chair. The chair dies to become a piece of firewood, and the firewood dies to become ash. You give different names to the different shapes the wood takes, but the basic substance is there always. If we could always remember this, we would never worry about the loss of anything. We never lose anything; we never gain anything. By such discrimination we put an end to unhappiness.”

― Swami Satchidananda, The Yoga Sutras

Trees have long been symbolic of life and knowledge. One great way to scatter the ashes is to mix the cremated remains into soil where a tree is planted. Memorial Tree Urns are designed to hold cremated ashes, allowing you to be “planted” as a living memorial tree. Trees reduce CO2 and pollutants in the atmosphere, and provide oxygen necessary to sustain life on the planet. Becoming a tree is a powerful way to continue making a difference for living beings, even in the hereafter.

 

Become a Diamond

“Oh how wrong we were to think immortality meant never dying!”

― Gerard Way

If you are looking to keep your loved one close, diamonds are a great way to hold on after death. Diamonds are symbols of transformation. Not only does it require the intense pressure upon the carbon, but what was previously only mineral is transformed into a clear and unbreakable jewel. Diamonds can be created from the carbon of the cremated remains through intense heat and pressure. Alternatively, a small amount of remains can be held inside cremation jewelry.

 

Send them to the Stars

“The old man smiled. ‘I shall not die of a cold, my son. I shall die of having lived.”

― Willa Cather, Death Comes for the Archbishop

 

Perhaps your loved one was always drawn to the unknown. Perhaps they always loved the night sky. The explorer’s soul dwells within each of us, and the voyager’s heart pumps gypsy blood through all our veins. If these statements resonate with your family, perhaps send the ashes into space where they may wander the night skies eternally.

 

Become Coral

O Captain! my Captain! rise up and hear the bells;

Rise up—for you the flag is flung—for you the bugle trills,

For you bouquets and ribbon’d wreaths—for you the shores a-crowding,

For you they call, the swaying mass, their eager faces turning.

― Walt Whitman

 

If your loved one was always drawn to the ocean, becoming a part of a memorial reef may be a great way to send them off. Coral reefs are incredibly diverse ecosystems, like underwater rainforests. Despite being relatively rare, they are home to more than 25 percent of ocean life. Your loved one will be intimately linked with the creatures that inspired their imagination.

 

Conclusion

“Dying has a funny way of making you see people, the living and the dead, a little differently. Maybe that’s just part of the grieving, or maybe the dead stand there and open our eyes a bit wider.”

― Susan Gregg Gilmore, Looking for Salvation at the Dairy Queen
Losing a loved one is never a pleasant experience. Even when the road is long and the passing brings a merciful end to suffering, we still yearn for the companionship of the fallen. At the same time, one of the greatest gifts our loved ones can give to us is an emotionally-impactful reminder that life is finite, and must be really lived. In the same way, it is important for us to find appropriate ways to memorialize the dead, so that the bitterness of their loss can age into the sweetness of meaning. Maybe that’s what we mean when we call these methods “poetic” ― our neverending quest for meaning in all things, and those few precious times we find it.

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Can I be planted as a tree when I die?

It’s a question we get all the time… “Can I be planted as a tree when I die?”

You’ve heard about this idea, and you’re intrigued. But will it work for you? Is it easy to do? What are the requirements, the regulations, the holdups, the costs, the prep? How does it work? Do you have to send out your remains – or those of your loved one? Does it only work with cremation? Or can you do full-body burial? What kinds of trees are available? How much actual work is involved?

You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers. Continue reading Can I be planted as a tree when I die?

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How do you get amazing online reviews for your funeral home? Well, it should go without saying that you must provide professional, premium quality services with a sense of dignity and respect. You should be timely, friendly, and welcoming. Be true to your word, and avoid catastrophes.

Competitive pricing can help but is not always the biggest factor. A wide range of products and services are also nice, but again, not always a must (think of Chipotle and the single-dish restaurant phenomenon).

So what does it take to start getting online reviews for your funeral home or mortuary? Here’s what you need to know. Continue reading How to Get Amazing Online Reviews for Your Funeral Home

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Planting a tree to honor the memory of a loved one – family member, friend, pet – is a beautiful tribute with significant and life-affirming symbolism. We’re always on the lookout for creative and unique “living memorials” and eco-friendly funeral and memorial options (see here, here, herehere, and here for a few examples), so we’ve had a chance to gather plenty of ideas. Check out these 5 ways you can plant a tree in memory of a loved one.  Continue reading 5 Ways You Can Plant a Tree in Memory of a Loved One

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Candles are a great addition to memorial services, reception table centerpieces, or home memorial displays. For the crafty do-it-yourself-er, here are 6 lovely DIY memorial candle projects that you can pull off quickly and easily at a minimal cost. Continue reading 6 Lovely DIY Memorial Candle Projects