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Funeral Resources: A Compendium of Links and Articles

A Compendium of Links and Articles

In our years of blogging about cremation urns and other relevant issues, we’ve discovered and created a wealth of funeral resources. Here we’ve gathered them together on one page in order to provide you with the best possible resources to help guide you through everything relating to the death of a loved one, from pre-planning to coping with grief after the funeral is over, and everything in between. Some of these are our own articles and blog posts, while many others are examples of the best content we’ve found on a given topic. Continue reading Funeral Resources: A Compendium of Links and Articles

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10 Things the Funeral Home Won’t Tell You

What you need to know when planning a funeral

There are so many tips out there for planning a funeral that you may feel overwhelmed by all options. Many of the guides and how-to manuals are put out there by funeral homes, and, while most funeral information is truly meant to be helpful, there may be a few things the funeral home or director may not tell you unless you inquire specifically.

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Should I Buy A Cremation Urn in Advance?

Shop for cremation urns ahead of time

There are many advantages to selecting and even purchasing your cremation urn ahead of time. This is a smart step in the process of planning and preparing for your eventual funeral. Pre-planning allows you the opportunity to infuse the occasion with your personality and preferences, while at the same time saving your surviving relatives stress when finalizing the funeral. Continue reading Should I Buy A Cremation Urn in Advance?

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How Does Cremation Work?

How does cremation work?

If you are in the process weighing cremation versus burial, you may be wondering, “How does cremation work?” Choosing how to lay to rest the remains of a loved one is a very personal decision and our hope is that discussing the cremation process will help you explore and narrow down your options. Continue reading How Does Cremation Work?

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Ten Things to Think About Before You Die

When someone you love dies, it is hard to know what to do. Chances are, you’ve happened upon this blog because you’re searching for a cremation urn or beginning to research what to for a spouse or relative who has died or is nearing the end. And as you know, it is a difficult time.

But you have the opportunity of sparing those who love you some of these difficulties by talking about what you want when your time comes. Here is a good checklist of ten things to think about before you die from the Funeral Consumers Alliance, adapted from Harold Schechter’s Whole Death Catalog: A Lively Guide to the Bitter End:

  • Do you want your organs donated? Which ones? Should they go to any particular medical school?
  • Do you want to be buried? Where?
  • What kind of coffin do you prefer? A cheap pine box? The best casket money can buy?
  • Do you want to be embalmed? Do you want an open-casket viewing of your body?
  • What sort of funeral do you want? Who should officiate? Is there a specific funeral home you wish to handle the arrangements?
  • Do you want a memorial service? Where and what kind – in church, at home, graveside? Are there specific instructions – favorite poems to be read, special music to be played, etc?
  • What sort of grave marker do you want, if any? What should the inscription say?
  • Would you prefer cremation? What about your ashes – do you want them preserved? Or should they be scattered? Where?
  • Who should be notified of your death? Who should be invited to the funeral/memorial service?
  • What information should be included in your obituary?

“Given how discomforting it is to contemplate our own deaths, it’s no surprise that when it comes to funeral preplanning, most of us are prone to the Scarlett O’Hara syndrome: “I’ll think about it tomorrow.” But it’s important to keep in mind that making these decisions – and communicating them to your family – is good for everyone concerned. It will give you the grown-up satisfaction of taking charge of your own destiny. And it will relieve your loved ones of a terrible burden at a time when they’re least capable of coping with it.”
The Whole Death Catalog, p. 47

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