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What do I do with cremated ashes?

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The question, “What do I do with cremated ashes?” is the subject of one of our most popular and somewhat bizarre posts: 27 Things to Do with Cremated Remains. That list includes all manner of unique ways people have scattered or stored cremated ashes, from shooting them off in fireworks to turning them into a portrait oil painting.

But most people who ask this question want to know realistic and practical options for what to do with the ashes after a loved one is cremated. Here is a brief guide which informs you of your options and may give you a hand in making the decision.

What do I do with cremated ashes?

The basic options are these:

  1. Bury
  2. Store
  3. Keep
  4. Scatter
  5. Share
  6. Some combination of the above

Read on for more information and variations on each option.

1. CREMATED ASHES: BURY

What do I do with cremated ashes?

Here are some common options for burying the cremated remains:

  • Local cemetery
  • Church cemetery
  • Green burial ground (see locations here)
  • Friend or family’s private land
  • Your own property or garden
  • Planted as a memorial tree

To bury cremated remains in cemeteries, you generally need a cremation urn and/or urn burial vault. Green burial grounds often require some sort of eco-friendly cremation urn. For burial on private land, you can bury an urn in a vault, just an urn, or just the remains – it’s entirely up to you.

2. CREMATED ASHES: STORE

What do I do with cremated ashes?

This option is essentially “above ground burial.”

  • Mausoleum (an external, free-standing building which encloses the interment space)
  • Columbarium (an above-ground structure with niches that stores the cremated remains)
  • Outdoor niche (usually at a church or cemetery garden)

Mausoleums and columbariums provide a permanent resting place for your loved one’s remains as an alternative to ground burial. Many churches, funeral homes, and cemeteries provide this option or something similar. Check with your local funeral home for more information about what is available in your area.

3. CREMATED ASHES: KEEP

What do I do with cremated ashes?

If you’re planning on keeping the remains in your home, the options are virtually limitless. Here are the basic ways to keep the remains:

The most popular option for keeping cremated remains is to store them in an attractive urn. These come in all varieties – wood, from hand-carved masterpieces to simple boxes; ceramic, from hand-made raku vases to mass-produced imports; stone, from authentic marble slabs to more affordably-priced cultured marble, granite, and onyx; metal, from premium bronze with exquisite carvings to simple sheet metal containers. Many themes are also available, such as butterflies, dragons, fishing, lighthouses, wildlife, and much more.

4. CREMATED ASHES: SCATTER

What do I do with cremated ashes?

Scattering cremated remains is fast becoming one of the most popular option for final disposition.

  • Scatter on land
    • Pour using a scattering urn
    • Rake into the ground (very soothing; works well for gardens)
    • Scatter at a meaningful location
    • Forest, garden, field, mountain, hiking trail, etc
    • Around your own property – garden, by the shop, etc
  • Scatter in water
  • Scatter from the air
    • Hire an airplane
    • Hire a helicopter
    • From a mountaintop/cliff
    • Skydiving

Scattering ashes can be done all at once, divided up among family members, done over time, at multiple meaningful locations, and more. This option frees you from purchasing a burial plot (though you may be able to spread a small amount over or near another person’s grave, to give a sense of ‘nearness’). Just be sure to check with whoever owns or is in charge of the land you want to use. Scattering is completely legal and safe for the environment, but you do want to be considerate of both public and private lands.

5. CREMATED ASHES: SHARE

What do I do with cremated ashes?

  • Share using cremation jewelry
  • Share using small sharing keepsake cremation urns
  • Share with family, friends, co-workers
  • Share to scatter/bury at different locations
  • Share to use different disposition methods
  • Share to avoid family conflict

6. CREMATED ASHES: COMBINE METHODS

What do I do with cremated ashes?

Most people tend to choose a single disposition method, but your preferences and situation may lead you to choose a combination of times, places, and/or methods. The average amount of cremated remains is a little less than 200 cubic inches (about 3 liters / 14 cups / 110 fluid ounces / 221 tablespoons). This means that, for all practical purposes, you can divide up the ashes into just about as many portions as you like and use as many methods, locations, and instances that you like.

An earlier version of this article appeared on UrnsNW.com and was revised using the helpful categories inspired by Scattering-Ashes.co.uk.

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  3. Great question, Ralph! We don’t have any resources on that yet, but we’ll look into it. Thanks for the idea!

  4. I cannot find the answer to my question so ……….. can a person decide that they do not want the ashes kept? I find the practice very morbid, and do not want my ashes or the ashes of my husband kept.

  5. Hi Joretta,

    Good question… no, you do not have to keep the ashes. You can bury them at a cemetery, much like as with a traditional burial but typically in a smaller (and more affordable) plot. You can also scatter the ashes in many places such as a forest, the ocean, or on your own private property. I hope this helps!

  6. I keep hearing about using something to make a diamond or glass art. What exactly does the company’s need? How much ashes do they need to produce a diamond or art glass?

  7. Hi Tracy,

    We’ve published an article about that very topic here: https://www.usurnsonline.com/memorials/turn-ashes-into-diamonds/

    Typically a cup or so of ashes is all that is required. Each company will vary a bit in their process, but they will send you a kit with instructions on how to get the right amount of ashes to send to them.

  8. Hello,thank you for all your helpful info.My mother in law wants to be cremated and be sat on top of her husband’s casket .Can that be done ? What would the procedure be and how much would that cost.Thank you.

  9. Hi Bobbie, you would have to contact the cemetery where the casket is buried. Hope this helps!

  10. I have cremated ashes of several of my beloved dogs. They each are in their own coffee can like tin container which I personalized. I want to bury them all together in my yard in a container that will keep them dry from rain and snow. Ideas? Thanks, Diane

  11. Hi Diane,

    We have urn “vaults” which were designed to hold adult-sized human urns, but (depending on the size of your tins) will probably hold your pets’ remains: https://urnsnw.com/urn-vaults/

    A more DIY-style option would be to use a plastic container that seals, perhaps like a Igloo-style cooler. Hope this helps!

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