Last Updated on October 13, 2020
A special birthday is coming up, or perhaps it is today. But your loved one is no longer here with you.
How do you wish someone happy birthday in heaven?
Below, we have several ways to wish your loved one happy birthday in heaven. We’ll also think about birthday wishes from heaven, on your birthday. And we’ll close it out with some ideas for how to celebrate your loved one’s memorial birthday.
Remembering Your Loved One’s Birthday
- Birthday Wishes in Heaven
- How to Celebrate the Birthday of Someone in Heaven
Happy Birthday Wishes for Someone in Heaven
When someone you cherished now celebrates their birthdays in Heaven, it leaves you feeling lonely. This is understandable, and you are definitely not alone in your feelings of grief. Thankfully, there are still ways for you to still wish your loved one a happy birthday in Heaven, and ways to thoughtfully iterate it, too.
Here are some special happy birthday wishes to speak in your heart for your loved one this year on their special day.
- “Happy birthday, ________. I don’t think you could ever know how much I miss you right now. I wish more than anything that we could be together again to celebrate your day. But I know we will again one day.”
- “It’s your birthday, but it doesn’t feel like it without you here. It doesn’t matter; I’m going to celebrate it like you are here because I know that’s what you would have wanted. I love and miss you so much.”
- “I know you’re in Heaven and that your birthday there must be way better than any party I could have thrown for you here. And maybe I’m being selfish when I say that I wish you were still here anyway. Happy birthday, love.”
- “I’m feeling a little jealous of the angels right now. Happy birthday in Heaven, _________. Until we meet again.”
- “I know we can’t celebrate today like we have in years past. But I hope you know that I still try. Happy Birthday.”
- “I never thought that this day would come, at least not so soon. The day I couldn’t wish you Happy Birthday to your face. So I’m sending you my best wishes straight from my heart and right up to Heaven.”
- “We can’t go out celebrating today like we used to. But I wanted you to know that I’m still going out – still going to stop by all our old haunts, still going to buy you a birthday gift, still going to raise a glass in your memory. I love you, _______, happy birthday in Heaven.”
- “I used to think that this day would get easier every year that went by. But quite the opposite has happened. Happy birthday, sweetie…I can’t wait for the day we can truly celebrate you again.”
- “I will never let today become just another day. Because it will always be your special day. Happy birthday in Heaven, ________. I hope you can feel the love I’m sending your way.”
- “No matter how old I get, your special day will always be the most special day of the year to me. And I will always celebrate it and you. Happiest of birthdays.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven: Mom
That first birthday Mom celebrates in Heaven is her most glorious one, yet the hardest for the children who survived her. Here are some ways to wish your Mom a happy birthday when she is no longer just a phone call away.
- “Happy birthday, Mom. I didn’t know how I would feel today, and to be honest, I’m feeling pretty sad. I wish you were here, but I also wish you the most beautiful and joyous birthday today in the presence of the Lord. I love you.”
- “There’s so much I want to tell you, Mama, and so much I want to hear you tell me. But on today, your special day, I simply want to wish you a happy birthday in Heaven.”
- “Happy birthday, Mother. How I wish I was there to celebrate with you.”
- “Every day since you passed away has been hard, Mom. Today has been especially difficult, but I know you wouldn’t want to see me sad like this. So here’s a smile just for you, just for today. I love you.”
- The calendar says it’s your birthday…but it really doesn’t feel like it. Tonight I am getting takeout from our favorite little restaurant we’d always spend your special day at. I know you would join me if you could. Happy birthday, Mom, I sure do love you.”
- “Sending hugs and kisses straight up to Heaven just for you today, Mommy. I wish I could wrap my arms around your neck and give them to you myself, but I’ll have to let God do it for me this year. Happy birthday.”
- “Remember how you used to celebrate your whole birthday month and not just your birthday? I’m going to keep that candle burning for you, Mom. I love you.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven: Dad
You used to celebrate every birthday together, but this year you must wish him, “Happy birthday in Heaven, Dad.” Here are some ways to express that sentiment in a meaningful way.
- “We used to have so much fun on your birthdays, Dad. We’d always do the same things every year, but every year it was special. I love you, enjoy your birthday in Heaven.”
- “You taught me strength, honor, humility, and also what it means to have a good time. I just can’t figure out how to do that last part anymore. Happy birthday, Pops, I know you’re having a good time in Heaven.”
- “You used to love Mom’s homemade chocolate cake… so today I made a double recipe just for you. I know you can’t enjoy it this year, but don’t worry – I’ll got you covered. Happy birthday, Dad.”
- “I looked in the mirror today and saw my father. And know what? I couldn’t complain.”
- “Happy birthday to the man who taught me all about the Reason I know I’ll get to see you again one day: Jesus.”
- “My loss was Heaven’s gain, Daddy. But that doesn’t make this day any easier. I love you and can’t wait to be together again one day. Happy birthday.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven: Brother
Your brother has been by your side through it all. You’ve always enjoyed celebrating birthdays together, but this year is going to be different.
- “I can’t believe it’s your birthday and you’re not here to celebrate it with us. Today I lean on all the good memories I have with you, and on the promise that I’ll see you again one day.”
- “Brother, what does it mean to celebrate a birthday in Heaven? I have no idea, except that it’s probably not bad at all. I love you, I miss you, and I wish you were still here.”
- “Today I saw what day it was and picked up the phone to call you. Then I remembered. Happy birthday in heaven, bro. Don’t worry – I’m not going to erase your number.”
- “They say, ‘If only heaven had visiting hours…’ Well I say, if only earth had visiting hours. I’d bring you back in a heartbeat to celebrate just today…then God could have you back.”
- “Happy birthday to my brother in Heaven. I’m sure after a glimpse of the heavenly realms there’s no way I could drag you back into this one for just for one more birthday together. And that’s okay. I love you.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven: Sister
Sisters share a close bond that those who don’t have a sister simply can’t comprehend. You will always want to wish your sister a happy birthday on her special day – even when she’s in Heaven – so here are some messages to help you do that.
- “I’ve spent the whole day looking through photos of us during happier times. I’ve laughed, cried, gone numb and felt the pain of losing you all over again. Happy birthday, sweet sister. It’s not the same here without you.”
- “When you left, a piece of me went with you. Happiest of heavenly birthdays to my precious sister. What a wonderful celebration we’ll have once we’re reunited again.”
- “There are no words to describe how I’m feeling right now. Sad, yes. But yet joyful, too. Happy birthday, _______.”
- “I’m sitting here trying to come up with a way to tell you happy birthday when there’s really no way to physically do so. It’s breaking my heart, but I’ll say it anyway: Happy birthday, sister. You are sorely missed.”
- “I will always celebrate you.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven: Friend
Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. You may have lost your friend, but you certainly didn’t lose the memories of birthdays past that will stay tucked in your heart forever.
- “It doesn’t feel right to celebrate this day. But I’m going to do it anyway, for you and in your memory, because it’s what you would have wanted. Happy birthday, ________, I love you dearly.”
- “Our friendship was one for the ages and will never again be duplicated. I don’t know how to honor you on this day other than by letting you know how much I miss you and wish you were still here. Happy birthday, my friend.”
- “It’s such a wonderful feeling to know that I have a connection to the One Who has drawn you back to Him again: the Lord. I pray you have a wonderful birthday celebration in Heaven today, sweet friend.”
- “Why does God always take the best? Happy birthday, __________. Thinking of you today and everyday.”
- “I don’t know if you can hear me, so I’ll ask God to pass it along: I love you, I miss you, and I miss the good times we always had together. Happy birthday, __________. I hope it’s a good one.”
Happy Birthday in Heaven Poems
Sometimes a little poetry can speak our emotions for us when we can’t get the words out ourselves. These are written by yours truly and are free for personal use.
Here is a video of the poem read by the author:
Night had fallen, on the eve before
And I knew it wouldn’t be the same
As last year, or the year before
So I simply said your name.
I cried in my sleep and wished you were close
By me still to rock and hold
My hand in the dark, my head to your chest
And whisper softly, a mother’s caress:
“It’s okay, I’m fine. I’m at the Lord’s feet
I’m dreaming of you and the day we can meet
To celebrate again that one day each year
The reason I was born at all: to love you, my dear.”
Tonight I’ll raise a glass to you
In a mournful sort of way
To celebrate who you once were
How you lived your life each day.
I’ll cry a toast to evermore
I’ll dance alone in our room
I’ll light a candle then blow it out
I’ll sing a song to you.
I’ll tell everyone how hard it’s been
Yet it won’t be honest enough
I’ll cry into your tear-stained pillow
Yet it won’t bring you back, my love.
Every year’s the same, and it’ll always be
Only me alone, and never you and me
To celebrate your special day
To live, to laugh, together be
The angels better treat you well
The Lord, I know He does
But until I can see you with my own eyes
I’ll remember you and what was.
Angel Baby A tiny birthday wish For my angel in disguise Who didn't get a full year round The sun, the stars, or my eyes. The babiest of blues The smallest of smiles To light up the entire world To give me joy for awhile. I miss you, angel baby I wish I didn't have to say How I wish I could carry you Still hold you anyway. God took you before I'd ever want Him to It should have been me first, right? But I wouldn't wish this pain upon you So I'm giving up the fight. The fight with God over what He's deemed A necessary lot for me The fight with what could have been: Daddy, you, and me. So happy birthday, angel baby This tiny birthday wish for you Holding all the love I could ever give Without ever having the chance to.
A Heavenly Birthday Haiku In Heaven you live On Earth I still celebrate The day you were born.
Birthday Wishes from Heaven (on YOUR Birthday)
What about when it’s YOUR birthday, and your loved one is no longer with you? How can you possibly celebrate YOUR day when the one person you want to celebrate with literally can’t?
If you have a friend in Heaven, and your birthday is about to roll around again (only this time, without them), we have a piece of advice for you:
Why? Because it’s what they would have wanted.
If you’re finding that hard to imagine, here are some “birthday wishes from Heaven,” conceptualized messages from your loved one to help you feel just a little more content today:
- “You would not believe how beautiful it is here. Sorry, but I wouldn’t want to leave Heaven for earth again any day – even your birthday! I look forward to the day we can celebrate YOU again, together.”
- “Happy birthday, __________. I know today is hard for you without me and I’m so sorry I had to leave you behind. When you get here, I’ll catch you up on everything.”
- “The Lord called my name and I had to go. But it’s on days like today that I wish earth had visiting hours. Happy birthday, honey, I love and miss you, too.”
- “I wish I could turn that frown upside down. Because there’s no sadness whatsoever here! Happy birthday to you and many more to come before you get up here with me.”
- “Life is so short – I think I have a right to say that now. Enjoy it while you can, live it to the fullest and make the most of all the birthdays you are given. I love you.”
- “When the time comes, we’ll get to celebrate your big day again. Until then, keep your chin up, do all the things you want to do, and remember me today and always.”
How to Celebrate the Birthday of Someone in Heaven
For several years after a family friend passed away, I’d buy a 16-ounce of his favorite soda (Sunkist) on his birthday and have a drink in his memory. It was such a simple thing to do, and no one else even knew about it. But it was a way to keep his memory alive in my own mind and heart.
That’s something that you could do, too, for your loved one this year on their birthday. Did they have a favorite snack or drink, and was it always served at their birthday parties? Or maybe they had a favorite song (or perhaps you associate a certain song with them). Listen to it on their birthday as a sweet gift to them, in their memory.
Here are some more specific ways that you can celebrate the birthday of your loved one who’s in Heaven now:
- Set their photo up and light a candle in their memory.
- Go to their favorite place, be it a certain store, restaurant or park.
- Call their family up and tell them you’re thinking of them today.
- Say a prayer just for your loved one.
These are all grief rituals… a way for us to further facilitate the mourning/healing process.
For related ideas, check out Death Anniversary: How to Remember & Celebrate Your Loved One
Happy Heavenly Birthday
One day, we will meet again and then we can celebrate you special day together.
When you’re missing your bestie…
Beautiful birthday wishes for the love of your life.
I can’t believe it’s your birthday and you’re not here to celebrate it with us. I miss you!
Mom, oh how I wish I was there with you to celebrate together.
A father’s absence is always felt so deeply.
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