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34 Creative Memorial Service Ideas

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Memorial services can vary in style, tone, and content just as widely as the unique personalities of the individuals being memorialized. As more and more families choose to modify or entirely steer clear of “traditional” services, the options for celebrating the life of a loved one multiply to accommodate the preferences of the family or the decedent.

Since the options for memorial service ideas are nearly limitless, it can actually be somewhat daunting to plan and pull off a memorial. Whether it be a culturally “traditional” service, a “life celebration” party, or something in between, the abundance of choices and the lessening of a widely accepted standard increases the pressure on the family to choose the right elements to include.

To help, we’ve gathered an array of memorial service ideas for cremation or burial which will hopefully be of assistance to you in planning the perfect life celebration, funeral, or memorial service.

34 CREATIVE MEMORIAL SERVICE IDEAS

Table of Contents:

  1. Decor
  2. During the Service
  3. Final Disposition
  4. Group Participation
  5. Keepsakes & Giveaways
  6. Having Fun

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So here are some of the most unique memorial service ideas to inspire your creativity.

Memorial Service Ideas: Decor

1. Funeral Flowers

Creative Memorial Service Ideas for the Funeral
This bouquet is delivered overnight from The Bouqs

Funeral flowers come in all colors, styles, and designs. Traditionally, the flowers for a memorial service are often white, but there’s no requirement to stick with white. You can use the memorial service florals to honor your loved one in a unique and creative way. Go bold and colorful, or choose a particular flower or color as part of an overall theme. Or keep it classy and simple, but with splashes of gentle, muted colors.

Your funeral service decor theme can include hobbies, organizations and associations, sports, interests, and much more. There are also many ideas for traditional and creative funeral flowers that include themes like airplanes, motorcycles, footballs, guitars, gardener, fishing, police, Masonic, cross, cowboy, sports teams, colleges, etc.

Most of these are available through your local florist. Here are some creative “alternative” funeral flower resources from around the web:

2. Scholarship Fund in Lieu of Flowers

Donations in lieu of flowers

One option for memorial service decoration is to not do so. If flowers don’t seem quite right, or if they are already supplied or unnecessary for some reason, include a note in the invitation that funeral attendees can make a donation to a donor-advised fund “in memoriam” instead of purchasing flowers.

These funds can be donated to a charitable organization or fund which reflects the passions and interests of the deceased. It can be anything from an actual scholarship fund set up in the decedent’s name to a donation to the local branch of a charity in which they were involved.

This is a powerful, meaningful, and lasting way to celebrate one life by impacting the lives of others.

3. Memorial Painting

Memorial Portrait for the Funeral Service

A commissioned work of art may take some time, but it will be well worth it when you see your loved one so beautifully and artistically memorialized. The above portrait is a commissioned work by the artist Mary Ann.

I know Mary Ann personally and not only does she do stunningly graceful work, but she is a dear friend who has a talent for truly “capturing” the spirit of a person in a memorial portrait. She can work from photographs and, through continual and compassionate communication with the family about the piece, creates gently emotive and visually appealing memorial paintings.

If you’re considering a memorial portrait, we have some tips to help you find the perfect artist to suit your needs. You can get memorial portraits done fairly quickly and affordably by shopping on Etsy (this can be a great option if the memorial service is coming up soon). If you have more time, you will probably want to do a more thorough search to find the perfect artist, and depending on the artist their work can take from one to six months.

4. Memorial Service Photos

Choose a photo to display at the memorial service
Here are 7 ideas for photo memorials at the service.

It is appropriate and touching to display a photo of the decedent, and this can be as simple as a framed print or as elaborate as a custom painting or laser engraved portrait.

Most often the family chooses a photograph that ideally represents their loved one and gets it printed in a large format. Sometimes this is a print in a frame set onto a table, or it could be a large canvas displayed on an easel.

Other creative ideas for photos include:

5. Engraved Photo Cremation Urns

Photo Cremation Urn Memorial
This granite urn includes personalization, available here

If cremation is chosen, a unique way to combine the urn and the memorial photo is to have the individual’s portrait laser engraved onto the cremation urn. This makes for a stunning centerpiece at the memorial service, and will be a beautiful keepsake to honor your loved one.

The urn pictured above is cultured black granite and engraves a lovely white tone. Photos show up very well as essentially black & white portraits, and you also get the custom inscription included at no extra charge. This has long been one of our most popular urns.

We also have a variety of other urns we can engrave with a photo, including gorgeous wooden urns. See all our photo urns here.

6. Customized Memorial Candles

These customized memorial candles are a bright and beautiful addition to the memorial service decor. Set the mood with your own personalized memorial candle, which includes custom engraving of any text or photo and will serve as a special keepsake for the family after the service has ended.

These are flameless LED candles, made from wax and with realistic flicker patterns. They look great, no one will know the difference, and since you won’t actually be burning anything you will be able to display the candle as a special keepsake for years to come. Many designs available here.

7. Collectibles

Display their collectible figurines

Showcase your loved one’s hobbies and passions by displaying a collection of things that interested them. This can be a part of the main table, set up near the guest book at the entry, displayed as centerpieces on reception tables, or all of the above.

Display his collection of baseball cards, stamps, or Magic: The Gathering cards. Showcase her scrapbook creations, nature photography, or Wizard of Oz collectibles. People collect all sorts of things from Star Wars figurines to stamps to coins to rocks and more.

Whatever they collected can be displayed simply on a table near the entrance or can be the backbone of the decorating color scheme. Use your imagination!

8. Choose a Theme

Creative Memorial Service Ideas

Decorate in a way that expresses your loved one’s heritage, favorite sports teams, hobbies, military or charitable service, religion, or other interests.

Perhaps someone was known for their love of doughnuts, and their favorite color was pink. Easy! Serve doughnuts at the reception, with a soft pink decorating theme and beautiful pink funeral flowers.

For someone of Irish heritage, think about throwing a traditional Irish Wake. For a hunting enthusiast, cover the walls with camouflage, leaves, and mounted trophies. Use Dallas Cowboys colors or Star Wars decor. Have photos of the inner city kids they mentored, or Habitat for Humanity projects, or volleyball teams they coached.

The ideas are endless!

Memorial Service Ideas: During the Service

9. Memorial Slideshow

Projected slide show for memorial service

Create a memorial slide show to project photos or videos of your loved one. This can be done as a montage with music during the service, or played on a loop in the background during the reception.

If you choose to do a slideshow during the memorial service, keep it between 3-5 minutes, or the length of 1-2 songs. Sometimes there are just too many great photos and you’ll feel like you want to display every single one. That’s ok! Just don’t make a 30 minute slideshow for the service; instead, play the 30 minute slideshow during the reception when people can be more relaxed.

When organizing a slideshow of photos from all stages of the individual’s life, make sure you include captions to show what year, or where, photos were taken, as it will help the memorial service attendees to piece together aspects of the person’s life with which they may not be familiar. Or try a video montage, which can easily be done through sites such as Animoto and even posted online after the service.

10. Poems, Quotes, and Sayings

Creative Quotes for a Memorial Service

Use quotes to sum up ideas, inspire and encourage, and to eloquently express grief, hope, and love. If your loved one had a favorite quote, poem, Bible verse, or song lyric, that should be your first choice.

We also have a wide variety of quote collections to help you, including quotes for life celebration, eulogies, Bible verses, hymns, prayers, and even some off-the-wall funeral humor bits which could, with the right crowd, serve as fun and cheeky ice-breakers.

Memorial Service Quote collections:

11. Funeral Songs

Funeral Music

A favorite song played at the right time can provide an appropriately emotional or nostalgic touch. Plan music with care, so that it isn’t 3-5 minutes of attendees waiting awkwardly for a song to finish; if possible, use music as a transition, to provide a time of reflection, or during the viewing.

If you’re looking for fitting music to use in these types of transitions, here are lists of popular contemporary songs, classical music, and traditional hymns used during funerals. And here is a well-edited funeral music compilation with instrumental tracks of classical pieces and traditional hymns.

12. Dove Release

Ideas for Memorial Service - Release Doves

Dove releases have become a popular way to end a funeral or life celebration. The release is a symbolic yet tactile way to help family members in the grieving process by a literal act of “letting go.” This adds a poignant sense of hope and beauty to the memorial service.

13. Butterfly Release

30+ Creative Memorial Service Ideas

An alternative to the dove release is arranging a butterfly release. As the butterflies are released, read a poem, say a prayer, or play your loved one’s favorite song. Allow the guests to mingle among the butterflies before moving on to the reception.

A butterfly release is ideal in tandem with one of our beautiful butterfly urns.

Avoid: Balloon Release

Memorial Service Ideas

We had originally featured a balloon release as one of our memorial service ideas. It has been noted, however, that a balloon release is not good for the environment. Balloons are non-biodegradable and can land anywhere, ruining animal and plant habitats.

Please consider this as you think of alternatives to a balloon release. If you are still interest in a balloon release, be sure to get biodegradable balloons, such as this set of 10 dove-shaped eco-friendly baloons.

Memorial Service Ideas: Final Disposition

14. Scattering Ashes

Memorial Service Ideas: Scattering at Sea

If you are planning on scattering cremated remains, think about including the scattering as part of the service itself. You can hold a memorial service at the location of scattering, or plan the service so that it leads into the scattering at a different location.

Previously on this blog we’ve detailed 27 Things to Do with Cremated Remains. The list includes standards such as ocean scattering, scattering at home or other private property, or at a favorite outdoor locations. We also list unique, exciting, and even bizarre scattering choices including planting as a tree, shooting off as fireworks, launching into space, mixed into the paint in a custom painting, made into pencils, and more. Check it out, perhaps it will inspire you with more creative memorial service ideas!

15. Biodegradable Shell Urn

Creative Memorial Service Ideas for Scattering

If you’re planning on a water scattering or burial, there are a variety of water-soluble and eco-friendly urns so that you can avoid actually pouring out the remains, such as the above Biodegradable Shell Urn.

Once the urn is placed in water (or in the earth; these are also perfect for an eco-friendly ground burial) the plant fibers help soak up water so the urn quickly dissolves. Finished with earth friendly water soluble paints for a natural look.

More biodegradable cremation urns

16. Plant a Memorial Tree

Grow a tree from cremated ashes

If outdoor burial (away from a cemetery) will be part of the memorial service, one option is to plant a memorial tree urn using our unique Biodegradable Memorial Tree Urns.

We offer a wide selection of trees which grow using the cremated remains in a proprietary mixture which nourishes and sustains the memorial tree. Have attendees participate in the planting process for a time of healing and connecting with nature. Shop the collection here.

Memorial Service Ideas: Group Participation

17. Memorial Stones

Set up a table near the entrance with river rock and permanent markers, and instruct each person to write a brief note on the rock expressing their love, grief, or cherished memories.

The memorial stones can then be read aloud during the service, or be scattered at a favorite fishing hole or hiking trail, kept by the family, placed around a garden bed, and so forth.

The lovely multicolored rocks pictured above are Alaskan river rocks. Another option is this neat set which includes a decorative vase.

More creative funeral guest book ideas here.

18. Share Memories at an Open Mic

Share Stories at an Open Mic

It’s a great idea to to include an “open mic” time for family and friends to share favorite memories. These times are often the highlights of the service, treasured for unveiling little-known nuggets of touching generosity or laugh-out-loud humor, and allowing those who best grieve publicly to have an opportunity to express their thoughts and memories.

Sometimes this can occur during the actual service, but you may not want to take the chance of just letting anyone take the stage. Or perhaps you’re worried about it going too long or a host of other issues. Perhaps the best way to “limit the damage” of any of these concerns is to have the open mic during the reception, where the atmosphere can be a little less formal than the memorial service itself.

In any event, make sure that there is a good microphone with speakers at an appropriate volume set up. Have someone experienced act as an MC to gracefully handle transitions and any uncomfortable situations.

19. My Special Memory of You Cards

This set of memory cards (see here for more info) comes in a complete package which includes a lovely ivory storage pouch and a set of printed “my special memory of you” cards.

Memory cards provide attendees at the memorial service an opportunity to write down their memories and can serve as a written record of the “open mic” session. It’s a beautiful resource of brief, heartfelt stories for the family of the decedent to treasure and remember.

You can pass them out at a set time during the service, set them out on at the entrance near the guest book, or scatter them on the reception tables for people to fill out while they eat and socialize.

20. Memorial Blessing Tree

The “blessing tree” is a popular activity for baby showers, and the same idea goes for a wedding “wishing tree. It also works as a creative memorial service idea.

Display a small tree or a small tree-like creation (like the one pictured above), and provide tags or cards for attendees to write a blessing or note of encouragement to the family, or as an opportunity to express love or grief directly to the departed loved one (similar to the memorial stones, above). This can serve as the guest book or simply a way for attendees to express their sympathy.

Tip: Use a money tree and cut out your own “leaf” cards

Here are a few angles you can take on this idea. Just choose an apt name and write out brief instructions so people get the idea:

  • Sympathy Tree – to express condolences to the family
  • Memorial Tree – to write a brief memory or message to the departed loved one
  • Goodbye Tree – a way to say goodbye
  • Prayer Tree – prayers offered up for the loved one and their family
  • Blessing Tree – to offer blessings for the loved one and those in grief
  • Celebration of Life Tree – express ways that the deceased had a wonderful, meaningful life

21. Build A Cairn

Build a cairn in memory of your loved one

One unique memorial service idea is to build a stone memorial cairn. A cairn is a man-made pile of rocks, often used as a landmark but also from ancient times marking burial sites.

This can be over the place where they are buried (if on private property or if the cemetery allows it). But a cairn doesn’t necessarily have to mark a burial location. Rather, it can be done at a favorite hiking or fishing spot, in your garden at home, or any other favorite outdoor spot.

If you will be scattering remains, or even just conducting the memorial service in the great outdoors, having those present help in building a cairn in honor of your loved one will allow everyone to contribute during the service, and will also leave a landmark in memory of the departed which can be revisited by all.

Memorial Service Keepsakes & Giveaways

22. Favorite Candy or Candy Bars

Creative Memorial Service Ideas: Candy

Did he love Milky Way bars? Did she always have a pack of Wintergreen Trident? Incorporate a favorite candy bar, chewing gum, or other treat into the memorial service.

Consider having a favorite candy in easy-to-reach bowls on each table at the reception, or pass out their favorite candy bar as parting gifts to attendees. Set up a display table near the exit with a photo of the person with their candy, and have bags of candy or bars with a note to take and enjoy in memory of your loved one.

Candy will add a splash of fun and some spark discussion of fond memories while providing a little treat to the attendees.

23. Memorial Pocket Charms

Little trinkets or keepsakes, called “funeral favors,” are a popular way to honor the memory of a loved one while saying ‘thank you’ to those who attended the funeral or life celebration.

These pewter heart shaped pocket charms, pictured above, come in an attractive organza pouch and include a printed card with a memorial poem. The charms are among our most popular memorial service ideas, and also come in shamrock and  angel designs.

For more funeral favor ideas, see here.

24. Memorial Tree Seedlings

Give out memorial tree seedlings for attendees to plant in honor of your loved one. This is a beautiful gesture in celebration of life, and of your loved one’s life in particular. It’s also a lovely way to say “thank you” to those who attended the memorial service.

Ask guests to report back about how and where they planted their tree. It is always encouraging to know that there are trees growing throughout the region in honor of your loved one, allowing their memory to live on.

25. Wear a Memorial Photo

Funeral Photo Buttons - Memorial service ideas
Photo buttons available here

Pass out photo buttons of the loved one which can be worn during the service or celebration. This will provide a sense of unity while also giving each person a memorial keepsake to take home.

Or consider making them yourself as a DIY memorial service project. If you have a crafty person in the family, this can be a way for them to help out and use their abilities as well as an opportunity to use their imagination. Create a personalized button as in the picture above, make a photo clip attached to flowers, or create necklaces and wristbands with the photo as the charm.

Memorial Service Ideas: Having Fun

26. Memorial Fireworks

Creative Memorial Ideas - Set off fireworks

Light off fireworks during or after the memorial service to provide a splash of color and light, and to emphasize that the purpose of the memorial is a celebration of life. This will be a truly memorable event for all who attend.

You can use real fireworks if available, or try this LED Fireworks Projector which can be used indoors.

27. Floating Lanterns

Paper lanterns to light up a Celebration of Life service

Floating lanterns, also known as sky lanterns, have been a traditional part of many culture’s celebrations and holidays for generations.

Lighting a candle for the deceased is a common memorial tradition, so it is fitting (and beautiful) to combine these traditions by lighting sky lanterns during or after the memorial service.

They are pretty affordable to get on Amazon, but if you want to keep costs down, here are some ways to make your own floating lanterns for a memorial service.

28. BYOB After Party

Throw a funeral after party

Truly celebrate the life of your loved one by inviting friends and family to raise a glass to their memory. Throw a BYOB after party and let the memories flow freely.

Or if wine was their thing, a personalized oak barrel that dispenses boxed wine will provide a brilliant and memorable centerpiece to the after party or reception.

29. Sandwich Bar

Creative Funeral Reception Ideas

Sandwiches are delicious and easy to make, and relatively affordable. Invite guests to stay after the service and share stories and memories during the memorial reception with a build-your-own-sandwich bar.

Tip: Use these elegant 3-tier serving trays to create a sandwich buffet

30. Potluck Buffet Reception

Creative Memorial Service Ideas - Potluck Buffet

A potluck buffer will help keep the costs down, while still affording attendees the opportunity to share a meal together. Meals are important because it allows everyone at the funeral to continue to process their grief, encourage the family, and share memories.

You can also incorporate a buffet into the decorating scheme by asking attendees to bring dishes in an ethnic or party theme. You can also consider asking for certain colors of food, or keep it simple with finger foods and snack plates, or do a dessert-only buffet.

Don’t underestimate the power of allowing others to contribute. When people have something to do for you and the family, it is a tangible way for them to express their own grief as well as sympathy to you. As you host a potluck reception after the memorial service, you are opening the doors for everyone to come together in support and fellowship.

31. Make Beads from Funeral Flowers

Upcycle the funeral flowers by making them into beads for memorial jewelry. You can order them online here (they’ll have you send in your funeral flowers), or make them yourself by following these step-by-step instructions here.

Memorial beads made from funeral flowers can be something just for you, for a select group of family and friends, or a special token to include in your thank-you notes.

32. Treasure Hunt

Fun Life Celebration Ideas - Treasure Hunt

Creative Funeral Ideas has an easy guide to creating a treasure hunt memorial, which celebrates highlights from the deceased’s life while getting everyone up and out of pews or chairs and into the great outdoors. Great for honoring someone who loved to hike, who loved the outdoors, or for anyone with an adventurous spirit.

33. Viking-Style Sendoff

Unique Memorial Service Ideas

In the modern day and age, a Viking-style funeral will only work using cremated remains, due to burial regulations for full-body funerals.

But there is little to stop you from a water scattering of ashes via a Viking funeral pyre, or simply having a funeral pyre ship as a memorial after the burial. Here are some tips for a successful Viking-style sendoff.

34. Get Social

Memorial Service Ideas on Social Media

Was the deceased active on social media? Have attendees live-Tweet, #hashtag their Instagram photos, or post photos and messages from the service directly onto a memorialized Facebook page. This is a simple way to allow guests to participate and interact with the memory of your loved one.

Invite people to post photos and stories to the person’s page, or tag them in a post. Create a hashtag (for instance, #inmemoryofjohndoe2019) and there will be an online digital location for the family to see photos from the memorial service, interact with friends and family, see old photos they may have never seen before, and read stories of their loved one’s beautiful life.

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  1. […] is what will make the memorial most beautiful in your memories, and will usually cost very little. Celebtrate with a tailgate party, create a treasure hunt, display nerdy collectibles, make beads fr…. Make it your own, do it yourself, and the memories will be treasured […]

  2. […] reduce the amount of stress we will already go through with the passing of one another. There are many ideas on the internet and the choices are unlimited. All that matters is that you put it in writing and let people know […]

  3. Please do not release balloons! Balloon releasing is illegal in many states because it is harmful to wild life. Just think, you release a dozen balloons in honor of someone who has passed only to cause the death of fish, birds and animals. Plant a tree, create a flower bed where others who are participating bring flowers to plant, blow bubbles to the wind with a memory of the person who has passed, set a place for the loved one at the table, float a natural materials wreath on the water….use the imagination and do what the person you have lost might do.

  4. I agree with so many of these, but NOT with any of them that go aloft and can/could end up in the water injuring animals or making debris (the paper lanterns). ALL of them are better than balloons!

  5. For those who are concerned about releasing balloons-biodegradable balloons are available these days. They are eco friendly and do not cause harm to animals. However, there are many more gestures that may be more suitable and are far more acceptable to all. Releasing birds or butterflies (many companies now have breeding programs for these specific activities), planting flowers, trees or making a memorial garden are wonderful, sustainable memorials. Messages to your loved one on pebbles, flowers thrown onto a lake in memory of your loved one, sponsor an animal shelter pen or similar. However you decide to do it will have special meaning to you and those you loved.

  6. Laurie,
    Thank you for the idea of blowing bubbles. Great idea I was worried about the balloons.

  7. Even biodegradable balloons endanger wildlife. Degradable is the operative word. It takes time for them to completely meld with the environment, and is an area where wildlife abounds, they are a danger. My husband designed a rock pile in our front yard but never could decide what to plant there. I am going to provide small cacti in biodegradable containers for planting. Our local florist has a great array, perfect for a desert memorial.

  8. I absolutely love these ideas! My beloved uncle passed away after old age and everyone has been at peace. We want to have a happy memorial service for him as we are thinking of cremating him. I think that we will go with the balloon,s pictures, and theme idea! He would have wanted a light ambiance. Thank you for the ideas!http://www.ahlgrimfuneral.com/

  9. I am dying soon and will have table (if I gt it done in time) with all the main intersdts of my life first make a list of those then make a foldd cardboard sign witht eh interest on it and then find oject/s to represent it

    for example cooking a favorite cookbook or one that reflects the kind of diet he had vegan etc and something like a cheese grater and some wooden spoons, reading some favorite books, birds some ceramic birds, healthy living some herbs and supplements etc / movies picture or poster of favorite movie, zoos a few plastic zoo animals, rocks some pretty rocks, singing some sheet music, and so forth

    can do a list of their strengths, key moments, statistics with some pictures

    something to reflect profession

    I am having during sit down portion start with a song then talk of childhpood have someone there during childhood talk about them, then move on to older yeas, marriage, children (during this the kids who want to speak), occupation and inters ts (song and someone speaks) later years etc during each segment one has a song and a person eulogize the deceased,,,make a printed program with song verses and who is speaking end with opening the floor if anyone wants to say something,

    at graveside play some spirituals song on recorder and a group singalong song..

    I was just writing all this out for my sons and decided to look for any other ideas as I want the funeral to reflect me and saw this and jotted down some of my ideas for others.

    you can make the tablecloth for th eintersts white or match the flowers and put a small vase of flowers there (I would use a gel thing instead of water or put stems in cut flower thing that florist use to hld a cut flower so water will not spill on objects or not much water or maybe artificial f,lowers id they do not look too tacky

  10. […] services don’t have to be extravagant. There are simple and meaningful ways to add personal touches. No matter how large or small the gesture, adding personal details to […]

  11. […] would say “Look it up!” So, in her honor, I did “Look it up” and while there are wonderful ideas on the internet about how to memorialize/mourn someone, I just couldn’t find one that felt […]

  12. Skywriting is another popular event to have at your love one’s services. It’s beautiful to see and create. You can put your love one’s name in the sky with a heart and watch it dissipate to the heavens. Theskywriters.com offer this service. Their very helpful and compassionate about your needs.

  13. to get that nautical theme check out http://phoenixboatworks.com for their Canoe Caskets. There is even a viking theme addition if you want a viking funeral.

  14. Jane, we are planning a celebration of life for my mother and I love the idea of your memory table I can/’t wait to tell my sister and plan for it. Thank you. God Bless

  15. There are balloons made from rice paper now and can be used for balloon releases, they do not pose a problem to animals in any way as they simply dissolve. The only draw back with these balloons is rain, as they will start to come apart if they get too wet.

    I work at a funeral home and we use these anytime a family wants to do a balloon release – and they are reasonably priced.

  16. I’m planning a celebration of life for my father. It’s odd not to have to do funeral or wake as my father donated his body to science. Case Western Reserve University has his remains for a year and then will cremate him returning ashes to family. While looking at ideas I noticed the place setting idea which I love and I’m thinking I will put together a very generic white squares of material next to squares I could cut out of a few of his favorite clothes or blankets and make a quilt using it as a tablecloth but I think maybe I’ll put several colors of fabric markers by the table and ask people to write a memory or sign it..maybe it can totally be a keepsake since we have no place to go for continued grieving like a cemetery or urn etc. my father also was a shot and a beer kind of guy so maybe I’ll lay out a beer and many shot glasses, his favorite whiskey….and anyone could do one last shot With him in his honor? Does that sound dumb?

  17. Hi Ellen,

    Great ideas, sounds like those are unique ways to honor your father’s memory. Shots in a loved one’s memory is an ancient tradition. The memory quilt idea is becoming very popular as an alternative to the traditional guestbook: http://www.usurnsonline.com/memorials-2/20-totally-unique-memorial-service-guest-book-ideas/

    Thanks for your comment!

    Daniel

  18. Love these ideas, great post, thanks so much. I’ve been trying to decide what memorial to get for my father who passed some time ago. I have his ashes and was thinking of planting something and getting a memorial bench from here http://www.benchmemorials.co.uk. I hadn’t thought of a tree, so thanks for that. Trouble is I am having trouble getting the council to reply for my request of having a bench placed in the spot me and my dad loved to visit down in Kent.

  19. My daughter Elsha M Rivera has been missing for over 12 years since 2004 from fort worth texas the kids are almost grown and dont remember her so they show no interest but I need to move on also, I cant do it by myself any longer do to health issue’s, I am going to presume her deceased and wanna have a service in Utah where her family and old school frieds all live Texas wasnt her home she was just their temporarily so I want to have a 80-90’s dance party after the service with food and drink and oictures of her life displayed everywhere at a pavillion by the cemetary..i wanted to set off balloons and doves at the memorial service give anyone who would like to share a memory and then have everyone write a memory or goodbye in strips of paper and place it in a urn with her picture so that one day the kids of they want to read them or learn more about her they can…
    Then in the evening as during the dance and the sun goes down I want to let off tea lights but have her picture or pictures of others missing all over….as a i now have many missing person family…members…to honor all those missing…in lue of flowers I’d to gather donations for the missing families to also have a balloon or tea light releases down the road

  20. some of these are downright disgusting not to say illegal. Balloon, lanterns butterflies – an absolute disgrace.

  21. I think people need to greive and do what they feel is best for them to greive and celebrate their loved ones life.

    I would guess some of these comments were made by people who have not lost a close loved one such as a parent or a child.

    People have come here to get ideas of sending their loved ones off in a respectable manner. There is no need for people to make unnecessary negative comments during this very hard time in someone’s life.

    You can express your opinion in a nice way other than saying something is a disgrace or disgusting.

    I hope those who came here for help will ignore those people who made insensitive comments.

  22. How insensitive of Liz Wild, my sister (52) died 20/1/2017 I was in Canada awaiting the death of my daughter (49) who passed away 6 days later 26/1/2017 so was unable to attend her funeral. I am trying to find a fitting way to celebrate their lives.

  23. Very nice blog, it’s very helpful.

  24. Wow great ideas…I am in particular need of a location without ashes or a coffin.. simple center for the meeting of family members spiritual and quite so everyone can share their memories and thoughts together.

  25. William – Locations for Memorials and/or Celebration of Life Services are abundant.
    The following are just some of the locations I have delivered services in my capacity of Funeral Celebrant:
    – Meeting room at a hotel
    – The deceased’s home.
    – The deceased’s place of work
    – Golf Course
    – A Legion or other group meeting place
    – Funeral Home
    – A public garden or park

    – Hope this helps you out.

    Cheers,
    Barry
    Funeral Celebrant
    Vancouver, BC, Canada

  26. DAUGHTER PASSED LAST NOVEMBER, SHE WAS 49. BOHEMIAN AS ALL GET OUT. NO CHURCH SERVICE WANTED. OUTSIDE (WEATHER PERMITTING) THINK HER FRIEND RACHEL WILL PERFORM BELLY DANCE AROUND CAMPFIRE, EASTERN MUSIC. HER DAUGHTER MIGHT PERFORM W/LIGHTED HULA HOOP, KIDS GET MARSHMALLOWS TO ROAST OVER CAMPFIRE AND WEAR LIGHTED NECKLACES. TIKI LIGHTS AROUND PERIMETER. THOSE WHO WISH CAN READ/TELL FAVORITE MEMORY OR TALE ABOUT HER LIFE. ORDERED MINIATUARE MATCHING URNS FOR HER DAUGHTER AND SON TO USE AS THEY CHOOSE: KEEP, CARRY OR BURY. LAWN CHAIRS AND LOTS OF FOOD OF COURSE.

  27. Thank you for all the unique memorial service ideas. My family really wants to do a memorial service, but we don’t know what to do. I like your idea of doing a balloon release. It would allow everyone to participate which would be really fun.

  28. What we did so that everyone could participate is we hired a videographer
    He was able to record the scheduled speeches as well as the opportunity for others to say something nice and feel that they were part of the reception / service
    We then had it prepared with music and we now have it as an awesome keepsake

  29. I want to begin by thanking everyone for sharing ideas for such a special yet final moment.

    My Mom passed away two weeks ago and in looking for our brother (who was estranged for 16 years) we discovered that he had passed away last year. We are now having a memorial service for both. We will have Mom’s ashes but so far nothing of his. I’m planning to have a slide show with their pictures as well including family and friends to remind us of happier times. Also, a memorial table with still pictures and a candle for each. My Mom loved plants so I’ve included one for the table and for memory cards I’ve made some in the shape of a flower for Mom and for him in the shape of a car (he made his love of cars his career). I also purchased flower seeds and will set them out in a vase like a bouquet of flowers as keepsakes.
    I hope this helps someone who like me, was looking for ideas to make a celebration of life for a loved one.

  30. I lost my father when I was eleven years old. I’m only in high school right now, but I realize the dangers of releasing balloons, including the “biodegradable” ones. I wrote an essay this past school year on why balloon releases should be illegal, which required a lot of research, therefore I am very knowledgeable on the subject. Not to mention I’m already making plans to pursuit a degree in marine biology. I believe balloon releases should be considered littering everywhere on earth. I just can’t understand why littering would be beneficial to a grieving heart. It doesn’t really make sense to kill an innocent sea turtle because someone is upset that they lost someone close. Again, I’ve dealt with grief at a very young age. I understand that it is a difficult time in people’s lives. I still believe that there is no reason balloon releases should be acceptable. Planting trees or flowers, blowing bubbles, taking a trip, or scattering ashes would be much better (or even beneficial) to the environment. Let’s stop littering because of a loved one’s death and let’s start doing unique activities that aren’t as common. In celebration of my dad’s life my family planted trees and flowers in our backyard, scattered his ashes in places where he would like, and take roadtrips that he would enjoy.

  31. Great ideas. I like it. Thanks for sharing such a useful content which will help people in some way.

  32. I like how you said to choose a theme for your funeral. I am helping my grandma pre-plan her funeral right now. Thanks for the ideas for a funeral service.

  33. I appreciate your ideas for what to at a memorial service. The idea of having photos for the deceased displayed for family and friends to see. I think that is a great way to remember a loved one.

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